Many of us may feel that relationship problems stem from issues the other person may have. However, you may be surprised to know that many issues that may exist in your relationship has more to do with you as an individual and with practicing better communication skills.
According to Erickson’s Theories of Psychological Development, during young and middle adulthood we all pass through the stage where we are seeking intimacy and acceptance.
Intimacy can best be described as “capacity to experience an open, tender, supportive relationship with another person, without fear of losing one’s own identity in the process of growing close” (Zastrow, 2018). Therefore, developing an intimate relationship means as an individual you have grown to understand yourself emotionally and cognitively leading to respect within the relationship.
We often fall short in identifying the difference between romantic love and rational love. We get carried away by the “feel good” feeling that our society has placed on the definition of romance. Identifying most romantic love will come from that intense unsatisfied desires and frustrations and we become focused on the “way the other person satisfies me”.
On the other hand rational love is realistic and there is no excessive desire, fantasy, or pity. We rationally accept the qualities our partner has and their shortcomings. The goal in seeking rational love is being able to give and receive, communication, so as to foster growth and development.
If you are feeling “stuck” in a relationship or you both are going through a “rocky period”, there is help. You can learn the ingredients necessary for a healthy relationship built on trust. Call us to make your appointment. On the road to a better life depends on you.
Add Comment